Last Updated on June 17, 2020
2. Have you tried everything?
Once you agree that a change in your married life is needed, you should immediately consider a therapist to help with your marital problems. Of course, you can try to solve the problems without resorting to a marriage counselor.
Still, a professional therapist will help you put things in perspective and give you fresh advice on how to work on your relationship. As with psychologists, it is important to find someone that suits you both and with whom you can connect emotionally.
You should only consider divorce after a sequence of failed attempts to save the marriage when you both agree that it has come to a critical point, and neither of you has the strength or willingness to keep fighting for it. If you come to this conclusion, then you should start searching for divorce lawyers near your area.
3. How will it affect the children (if there are any)?
Many couples try to stay together for the sake of their children but do absolutely nothing different to improve the marriage. This will only delay the inevitable and could even make things way worse. If you’re miserable together, just split.
You can’t fake a loving and caring environment for a long time. Although divorce has a huge impact on your children’s mental state, constant arguing, fighting, and not showing love towards each other may be a much worse child-rearing environment.
In such cases, divorce is better. But it would help if you handled it right. Seek professional help and try to understand your child’s feelings and emotional needs.
It will be a long and arduous process that will entail profound changes in their life, but it can be done in a way that minimizes the risk of trauma as much as possible.
And you will need to be extra careful about introducing your child to new lovers, as they need to be properly ready to face that situation.
4. Are you financially prepared for a divorce?
Apart from the changes related to the fact that your partner is no longer present in your daily life, you should be prepared to face some lifestyle changes given your new financial situation. Getting a divorce is expensive. Although not as expensive as getting married.
