How to build a strong relationship while taking things slow

Last Updated on January 23, 2021

© unsplash When it comes to dating, you can choose to take things slow or fall hard and fast. Even though the second option may appear dangerous, a lot of people fall into it because they think everything will end well. Just like in a fairy tale, both people fall in love at first sight and live happily ever after… the thing is, that never happens. At the end of the day, there are no dating rules, but taking it slow in a relationship is always advisable and has a lot more benefits than you might expect. So keep reading to find out how to build a happy relationship while taking things slowly.

1. Find someone with the same priorities

Even though your partner doesn’t have to believe in the same things you do, they need to respect it. This is why it’s so important to be careful about the person you want to invest your time in. Most people lie about being respectful and patient when it comes to taking things slow. They assume it will be easy to change your mind, and when that doesn’t happen, they end up leaving you. No matter what the case might be, you should never change your beliefs and desires just because the other person asks you to or forces you to do it by using manipulation tactics. Dating apps like tinder aren’t very advisable for someone who wants to take things slowly since most people on these apps are only looking for hookups. But if you struggle to get to know people and prefer using dating sites because you feel more comfortable, then go for it! Just remember to always tell the other person what you’re really looking for and don’t be mad if they don’t agree with it, at least you know that person is not the ideal match for you right from the start.

2. Set your physical boundaries

When talking about taking things slow, it’s not always about the emotional part, it’s also the physical one. We live in a modern world, maybe too modern, where cuddling and going on dates is considered to be more intimate than physical relations. For most people, the physical intimacy became meaningless, but for the minority, it’s something that results from a deep connection with someone else; therefore, there’s nothing wrong with figuring out if you truly have a connection before taking that step. Learning how to communicate in a relationship is key to have a successful dating life, so always be clear from the beginning about your intentions and what you’re not comfortable with. If you don’t want to kiss on the first date, you don’t have to. If you don’t want to be touched, you won’t. And if you don’t want to be physically intimate, you should wait as long as you want to. All you need is to be explicit about it to the other person, and if they can’t handle it, don’t be with them.