Last Updated on September 2, 2020
Infidelity can be deeply complicated mainly because there’s usually a lot of hidden factors as to why people cheat as well as how they find a way back together. So it is crucial to shed light on the timing of the breakdown and all the reasons why what happened happened.
Being open and completely honest about your feelings, fears, mistakes, impulses, and so on is going to be incredibly beneficial for your relationship in the long term.
However, repairing a relationship could be impossible when the one who cheated is pointing blame and/or isn’t being honest about why they’ve cheated. Keep in mind that phrases like ‘it just happened’ and ‘I am a man after all’ aren’t acceptable at all because they are neither clear nor reassuring.
To rebuild trust in a relationship, both sides need to be completely clear and honest or try couples’ therapy for professional guidance on how to heal from an affair.
4. Remove Any Possibilities For The Affair To Reoccur
Whether you’ve cheated or been cheated on, you should make sure that the affair is definitely and truly over.
Then, the one who cheated needs to start taking real physical steps to completely disconnect from the other person involved in the affair as well as establish solid boundaries to allow their partner to heal properly.
Those steps may include unfollowing/unfriending social media contacts, blocking cell numbers, deleting contact information, and verbally announcing the separation.
Of course, the disconnection isn’t always easy, especially when the affair is between two co-workers, and the no-contact approach is simply impossible. In this case, the solution is being transparent about any interactions.
3. Move Forward With Extreme Care And Honesty
Being cheated on is devastating and usually causes long-lasting or deeply-engraved damage. However, it is possible to move past it and repair your relationship, and to do so, you should put a lot of energy into addressing any lack of honesty.
Both sides need to keep in mind that lying is just another form of betrayal and will only do more harm to the relationship. So being brutally honest about the affair is crucial to move forward. More importantly, this transparency needs to continue for as long as it takes to build trust back up and begin healing.
