Last Updated on September 9, 2020
Relationship arguments are a part of life, and they can happen in any relationship, whether it’s a best friend, a romantic partner, or even a coworker. But when it comes to your life partner, especially if you are in a long-term relationship, things can get out of hand if you don’t know how to handle a disagreement.
If you plan to build your way into a lasting healthy relationship, you need to know how to have a good conversation, even when the topics are problematic.
Arguing in a relationship should be like extinguishing a fire, but for some reason, people seem to think that fueling it is the way to go when it’s not. If you want to find out how to argue in a relationship while keeping things healthy and respectful, this article is for you.
1. Your focus should always be on finding the solution to your problems.
Everyone has relationship problems, but if you really want to make progress and change things, you need to stir the focus away from the complaints and try to come up with a solution to your problems.
This will save you a lot of screaming and getting hot-headed because you will be trying to solve the problem instead of complaining about it. Healthy communication is encouraged, of course, but “healthy” is the keyword.
Communicating just because you are furious or frustrated won’t do any good, and it might end up paving the way towards a toxic relationship as these fighting mechanisms become a pattern. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you must be solution-oriented, and everything else will fall into place.
2. Words have power
If you want to have a successful relationship, you have to mind the things you say, because words can be stronger than you imagine. Using overstatements like “you never do this” or “you always do that” will do no good in an argument because the other person will do nothing else but try to debunk your exaggerated arguments.
Think about what you want to say before saying it and try to moderate your choice of words to try and build an argument that makes sense and that actually achieves something.