Last Updated on January 15, 2021
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When it comes to being in a relationship, there are always ups and downs. Fights and misunderstandings are normal from time to time, but what keeps a serious relationship going, is the fact that above everything, two people deeply love each other, and there’s a will on both parts to keep going.
However, whether you’re in a long-term relationship or not, the truth is, most people who are currently dating, have an unhappy relationship without even noticing it.
There’s such a big misconception about the single life being bad or wrong, that even unhealthy relationships seem better than being single. When in reality, we all should experience being single for a while.
If you’re debating on this matter, keep reading and find out some signs you’re better single than taken.
1. You’re not sure about the other person
Oh well, here you have the first big red flag when it comes to relationships.
Of course, we’re not saying you should feel like you want to marry that person right away, after all, nobody knows the future, and when we start relationships we’re still discovering how the dynamic works.
But if after the first or second date you’re just thinking about all the things that you dislike about the person, then it’s probably better to end it as soon as possible. Especially if the con list is superior to what you actually like about them.
If you just can’t imagine yourself and your current partner as a long term couple, then you should seriously rethink what you’re doing with your life at the moment. Was it meant to be just a hookup that somehow ended in a relationship? Were you just feeling lonely?
There are many reasons why someone can end up in a romantic relationship without even loving the other person. Which isn’t fair, all you have to do is be honest about your intentions, don’t lead anyone on if you don’t actually like them.
2. Your professional life is a priority
One of the main reasons that cause relationship problems: work.
Everyone has their own timing. Some of us prioritize love and building a family while others are focused on career and success.
And sometimes, we can find someone who is not in sync with us, maybe they’re already where they want to be professionally and are ready to start a family, or maybe you are, but your partner is all about work work work, which can cause a lot of stress and anxiety to both of you.
You might love each other, but timing is everything. There’s no guarantee they’ll be there for you after 2 or 5 years, it’s always a risk, but continuing the relationship is too. After all, the two of you being on the same page about common goals is key for a successful and healthy relationship.
3. You secretly want the single life without being single
Unless you’re in an open relationship, you can’t have the best of both worlds.
It’s very common for people who are in a relationship to miss the “single life.” But what happens after, is what truly indicates how you feel, do you keep thinking about it? Imagining possible “single” scenarios?
Or is that thought completely crushed by the strong feelings you have for the person you’re with? This alone could tell you if you should be single or not.
You should know that both worlds are good and necessary for your personal development. You need to go out, meet new people, party and regret the morning after, it’s normal and it’s part of growing up. So do the best for you and go enjoy being single if you feel like you need to.
4. You view money in different ways
It’s only normal that two different people might have different opinions and personalities. What makes a relationship last is how they communicate and find a middle ground, where both can be happy.
One of the most controversial topics in relationships is money.
If you view money as something important for the future, and your partner is all about the present, then that’s a sign you don’t value the same things. Maybe your partner is more of a free spirit who wants to use the money to travel the world, and you prefer to save that money to buy a house or something else you might find necessary.
But for your partner, travelling is also a necessity, only that you see it as a luxury. These different mindsets can really end up messing up your partner’s or your own personal life. Because someone will end up giving in, but what about your own dreams and future plans?
If your goal is travelling or buying a house, your partner shouldn’t make you give that up for them. You either agree on a solution that works for both or maybe, it’s time to put yourself first.
5. You have commitment issues
There are many reasons why someone might have this type of issue in a relationship. The worst part is that sometimes we don’t even realize we have these problems.
Some signs you might have commitment issues is if you’re usually emotionally detached, or try to be. You don’t feel the need to make plans for the future, in fact, you don’t even think about the future.
And you possibly spend a lot of time questioning your own relationship, not just once a week or once a day, but it’s a constant thought that doesn’t go away.
If you know you have commitment issues, or if you’re not sure but you relate to these signs, you shouldn’t lie to yourself and your partner by being in a relationship.
This type of issue must be resolved by yourself, while you’re single. You probably value your personal space more than anything, so use this “single” time to work on these problems, if you don’t, you’ll never be truly happy in any relationship, and your partner won’t either.
So, can you be happier single?
You probably already know the answer by now.
After reading this article, if you relate to some or all of these signs you’re not meant for a relationship, please don’t fool yourself thinking you’d be better off with your partner, especially if you’re in a toxic relationship and you just want to get rid of all the relationship stress.
Take a deep breath, shut off your brain and put all judgments aside, look deep inside of you, what is your heart telling you to do?
