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Last Updated on January 31, 2021
3. Get rid of negative emotions
Holding on to guilt, regret, anger, or sadness is not the best way to keep a marriage working. A lot of times, we tend to hold on to negative feelings because it’s a way of self-protection. In your mind, if you don’t forgive or forget, you think you might be ready if something bad happens again because you’re already used to those negative feelings. However, if something bad does happen, it will hurt the same. So is it wise to surround yourself with bad memories when you can simply focus on the positive ones? Think about the present for a second, not the past or the future. Not what happened or what might happen. Think about the present, how do you want to live? How do you wanna feel right now? If happy is your choice, then try to remove every bad memory or thought that goes into your head about your relationship. Everyone makes mistakes, it’s up to us to forgive and move on, and if you’re still with your partner, it’s because you still love them. A good exercise you can do every day is to ask yourself “Why am I with this person?”, “Why did I marry this person?”, “What do I love about this person?” By asking yourself these questions, you will invoke positive feelings and memories that will certainly overshadow the negative ones.4. One act of true love per day keeps divorce away
A funny concept that many therapists talk about is incorporating an extra vow into your normal marriage vows that consists of an action that you will do for the other person every time they need it. Loving unconditionally in sickness and health is not a specific action. But saying “I’ll clean the kitchen whenever you ask me to” or “I promise to go to every horror movie with you even though I hate them” is an action that you can do through your marriage to show that you still honor your vows and love your wife or husband. This is why committing to a daily act of love is a great tip for maintaining a successful marriage. If you’re already married, make those vows right now. It’s never too late to show your love, simply ask yourself “What does my partner like?” or “What does my partner need right now”? And find out what your love action is going to be! Just remember that once you start, you can never stop or refuse to do it! Now that you’ve read these 4 tips on how to improve your marriage by using simple tactics and behavioral changes, we hope you truly commit to them. A relationship is not worth having if there’s no love, respect, and healthy communication. Communication can be worked on but respect should always exist. And love grows and diminishes, but it never disappears!- Advertisement -
