Last Updated on January 18, 2021
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A divorce can be a thousand times harder than a simple breakup. You can’t just break up with someone, and that’s it, when you decide to get divorced, you have to follow all these steps and rules, and you can’t do it privately, besides, it can be very time-consuming. In most countries, the whole divorcing process can take from 3 months to one year!
So yes, divorcing is never a fun thing to do, but it can be necessary if you feel like you’re in an unhealthy relationship or always feel unhappy.
There are many reasons why a marriage doesn’t work. Maybe you rushed into it. Perhaps you found out you’re not compatible, fell out of love, or even met someone else.
If this title caught your attention, then you might be doubting if you should divorce your partner. Even though that’s something only you can decide, we can help.
Below there’s a list of some of the signs you should get a divorce. So keep reading and see if you relate to any of these signs.
1. You Feel Lonely, Even When You’re Not
One of the main signs of divorce is coming is continually feeling alone. Your partner should be the person who takes that feeling away, not the one who makes you feel that way.
When a relationship starts to fail, communication is low, affection is even lower, and intimacy is non-existent. This makes both people feel extremely lonely and alienated.
2.Always In Defensive Mode
When there’s a lack of communication, there’s also a lack of understanding between two people. This means we tend to get our guard up, which means no more vulnerability or honesty.
We tend to hide behind our emotionless expressions and words, thinking that’s helpful when, in reality, it isn’t.
Sometimes opening our hearts can be even more heartbreaking than not saying anything, but at the end of the day, you’ll feel relieved that you spoke your mind instead of hiding your thoughts.
3. Kids Are The Only Focus
Kids don’t ruin relationships. No matter what you might think, it still is our fault if a relationship fails after having them. They can, however, serve as an excuse to keep a couple together.
Of course, this is wrong because those kids will never grow up to see a good example of a romantic relationship if their parents hate each other.
But parents often use kids as the main focus, thinking “we’re doing this for our kids” and “as long as we focus on them we can avoid our relationship problems” No, you’re wrong.
You’ll only be making your kids live in an unhappy home when they should grow up seeing nothing but love around them. And you can’t do that if you’re living a miserable life or even worse, faking a happy life.
4. You Don’t Want To Socialize With Their Family Or Friends
One thing is not wanting to go out to meet their friends because you’d rather be cuddling on the couch with your partner, another thing is to avoid social gatherings because it means spending time with them! One of the top signs of divorce is when you start to remove yourself from your partner’s life.
You slowly stop visiting their family, you come up with excuses to miss birthday parties and so on. But in reality, you are just trying to avoid feelings like anxiety, sadness, and loneliness.
5.No Physical Intimacy
What is an unhealthy relationship? Many things can come up to your mind like not caring about each other’s interests, lying, no communication, lack of affection, constantly criticizing, and, last but not least, having little to none physical intimacy.
When it comes to intimacy, there’s never a fixed-line; some weeks are better than other’s after you have kids. Some months are better than other’s, and once you become older and older, intimacy starts to be less important.
However, when there’s a significant drop in physical intimacy for no apparent reason, then that might be concerning. We’re not talking about a few weeks, but if months go by and your partner doesn’t show any desires, then you might start to wonder what’s wrong.
The truth is, loss of attraction is one of the main reasons people get divorced. It’s not easy to deal with, but nobody wants to be in a relationship where there’s no love or attraction, and there will be someone out there that will love all the things about you forever.
6. Constantly Criticizing
Criticism is hard, especially coming from loved ones.
However, criticism can come from love or be seen as an effort from a loved one to help you be better. It can also be a way to put you down, making you feel like you’re not good enough and leave you broken inside.
It’s easy to separate constructive criticism, which is advice, from mean criticism, which is made for one purpose only: bringing you down.
A romantic partner should never have such an objective, and this type of behavior can easily turn into aggression, verbal and physical.
7. Not Apologizing
What differentiates a healthy vs. unhealthy relationship is the ability to apologize when we know we’re in the wrong.
It’s normal for our pride to take over sometimes, not letting us apologize even if we know we should, but once you grow older and your relationship matures, there’s no reason such habit should follow.
One of the main signs you should divorce is if you’re constantly fighting about the same thing, always blaming each other and never coming into a consensus.
Now that you’re aware of all these warning signs of divorce, try to think about how you genuinely feel in your current relationship.
You don’t have to feel always happy and content with it, negative feelings are normal in any relationship, but the positive ones should be enough to keep “divorce thoughts” out of your head.
So, if you’re thinking about it then maybe something is off, and you should do what makes you happy.
Feeling unhappy is one of the most important signs you are ready for divorce. Remember that you’re not in a relationship by yourself, so if you’re not feeling your best self, ending the relationship is the best option for both of you.
