12 Signs Your Partner is Hiding Secrets from You

Last Updated on January 23, 2021

Do you believe in intuition? Sometimes it can be hard to ignore a strong gut feeling about someone, especially if that someone is the person with whom we share a loving relationship. Believing that someone you love so much could be lying to you or even cheating can be absolutely devastating. But even though you trust your instincts, you need to gather some evidence before going through with an accusation. While every relationship is different, some common red flags in a relationship can be huge signs your partner is cheating on or lying to you.  If deep down you can certainly feel that something is off, try and find out if you are right. We gathered a list of 12 behaviors that are common telltale signs someone is keeping a secret. We hope it helps! 

12. They are being too nice

While your partner is expected to treat you right, it is probably not normal for them to bring you flowers and surprise you every single day, is it? Grand gestures are welcomed and appreciated – everyone enjoys feeling loved and spoiled. But if you have a strong feeling that these gestures are being used to cover for something bad… maybe you should start paying attention to other things that might have changed. Is it an attempt to get you off the trail? 

11. They won’t let you near their phone

Any relationship that doesn’t respect privacy boundaries is a toxic relationship, period. And while you shouldn’t be snooping around on your partner’s phone, the fact that they might become nervous every single time you get near their device can mean something. While some secrets in a relationship are justified, your partner shouldn’t have anything on their phone that you simply cannot see, right? If their cellphone habits have changed recently and they have become super secretive about their phone, ask them why. If they get defensive instead of offering a reasonable explanation, this probably means they are hiding something, and it can be one of the strongest signs your partner is cheating on you.  

10. They overact when you question them 

How to know if your partner is cheating? Easy, ask them. Not directly, of course, especially if you don’t have any proof that they might be doing it. But ask them simple questions that point towards your suspicion and stand by to see how they react. Unfortunately, infidelity in a relationship is a pretty common thing. But even cheaters are aware of their hurtful deeds. And if they see you are getting closer and closer to their secrets, they will start to get nervous. The fear and anxiety can lead them to overreact to even the smallest questions, and that’s how you get them.

9. They try to turn the tables

While some people who cheat experience extreme feelings of guilt, others can be deliberately manipulative and try to gaslight you. Cheaters will try and project their guilt into their partner. If you ask to see their phone, for example, they might call you crazy and intrusive. They will do everything in their power to put the blame on you – like you are the one causing this crisis and trying to get into a fight. This, too, is a form of abuse, and if they manage to manipulate you over an extended period of time, you might even start to doubt your sanity. Be careful with manipulators – being in this type of toxic relationship can lead to mental health problems, like anxiety and depression. Watch out for this sort of manipulative behavior.