Last Updated on November 25, 2019
Love is this magnificent idea we all have in our hearts from an early age, and from the moment we actually find it our lives get better, brighter and it all starts feeling like a dream where everything is falling into place.
But even when we feel like this, relationship anxiety can take over and we can find ourselves wondering if forever isn’t too long. Psychologists have compiled a list of signs you are marrying the right person, and today we bring you 10 of those signs.
#1 – You can read each other’s minds
Research has shown that your nervous system can actually get aligned with your soulmate.
Spending long periods of time together will result in a deep connection in which you will learn to understand their feelings, to interpret their reactions and to almost read their thoughts – as you will recognize most of their involuntary body language.
This is a unique connection common in healthy relationships, where you can understand each other without needing words.
#2 – You are both looking in the same direction
Sharing a life with someone means sharing your hopes and dreams and, of course, if you are in a loving relationship, you will sure wish it will last down the road.
Therefore, it’s only natural that you will make plans together, and this will most likely mean that you need to share some visions of the future. One of the red flags in a relationship that you can easily spot is if the person tries to make you give up on your own personal goals in order to maintain the relationship.
Keep in mind that in order to build a life together with someone you must feel capable of standing alone, and of course, a couple needs to share some dreams for their future, but this should never mean that you need to give up on your own.
Being together with someone who lets you be yourself and live life as an individual is the most amazing thing in the world, and if this is what you have then yes, this is one of the signs you should marry him.
#3 – You feel like everything is worth it
Being committed to someone isn’t always easy – sometimes you have to swallow your pride and take the higher road, even when you don’t feel like it. But if after a second you have completely forgotten about the bad side of compromising this might mean you know that the person by your side is worth the trouble.
There is a need to meet the person you love halfway, to compromise, and this doesn’t mean you have to change, only that you need to be thoughtful and considerate of the other person’s feelings.
This is the only way to make sure your relationship will last, and if you can’t see yourself doing it, then maybe this is not it.
#4 – Your brain feels funny
The heart is the organ that is often associated with love, but the truth is everything happens in the brain. Well, love has a drug-like effect on the brain, and when thinking about the one you love, the reward center in your brain suffers from stimulation, which will result in the increase of dopamine levels.
This is often associated with the poetic feeling of butterflies in your stomach, and since this is something you can’t control, maybe this means you are on the right path.
#5 – They are your biggest support
Whenever you need cheering, they are always the first person you look for; they can calm your anxieties and your fears, and even if you are in a long-distance relationship, their virtual support still means the world to you.
Feeling like you can trust them is amazing and it makes you feel like no matter what happens, you will always have somebody to lean on.
#6 – Happiness feels effortless
This probably goes unnoticed, but when you find the person you are meant to be, this will feel… normal.
You can talk with them for hours on end, but you can also be silent around them and it will feel just as nice, and this kind of effortless dynamic is everything you can hope for. Feelings of joy will come naturally, and you will find yourself smiling about small things you never even considered and well, this is love.
#7 – You want them to meet the people you love
Approval is something we need in our lives, and even if we try to find our way around it or try to deny it, it’s a fact that has been proven by psychology.
Even if we end up not caring for everyone’s approval (which is ideal, because otherwise, you will find yourself dealing with a lot of anxiety), it’s only natural for us to seek the approval of our loved ones, and this often traces back to them giving us a green light on the person we are dating.
If you found someone you love so much that you want them to meet all of your closest friends and family, this means you have probably reached relationship goals, so go for it and bring everyone you love together to share this special moment.
#8 – Their company is pleasurable everywhere
Of course, intimacy is a big part of a relationship, and it probably is the most important part of the beginning. But as things evolve, great physical intimacy is not good enough to keep you interested in someone or even to want them around, being far down on the list of things that define the relationship.
Therefore, you need to find yourself experiencing pleasant moments side by side with that person and outside of the bedroom. If physical intimacy is the only thing that keeps your relationship afloat, it might be the time to revisit your priorities as a situation like this might be labeled as a toxic relationship.
#9 – Without them you don’t feel the same
The only healthy way to be in a couple is to keep being yourself and don’t just disappear into the relationship.
But even though you are keeping your individuality, sharing so much of your life with someone will clearly have an impact on how you feel when they are not around, and for this reason, their absence will be felt in a different way.
#10 – You kind of become one
If you have made it to the end of the list and checked all the boxes, this one is quite simple: you often find yourself talking in the plural, using “we” or “our”. Don’t get scared, this just means you are working as a team, looking forward together and sharing your dreams and goals.
A lot of the things we listed are part of the marriage definition, and don’t worry if you don’t feel ready for it yet – you have time, and waiting for the one can take some time, but it will all be worthy in the end.
If you haven’t felt this way before, don’t be scared and maybe try some relationship apps – sometimes we do find hope in a seemingly hopeless place.