10 Well-Intended Phrases that Are Actually Toxic

Last Updated on January 20, 2021

7. “Time heals everything.”

This particular sentence can be quite triggering, especially for people who have gone through intense grieving processes. With time, chances are people will get used to their problem or find a solution for it. But time alone won’t fix anything. In fact, some things can’t even be fixed. No one knows how long the pain, the grief, and the hurt will last, so telling someone to trust the healing powers of time can be quite unpleasant and, honestly, not helpful at all. 

6. “It’s not the worst thing ever”

If you have a friend who always minimizes your problems, this means you are in a toxic relationship with them, and this needs to stop. If you are the friend who always says “It’s not the worst thing in the world” … you need to stop. Really, what scale are we using here? Of course, there is always going to be someone who is going through something way worse, but does that mean you are not allowed to feel bad? Saying this to someone will make them feel guilty about the negative emotions they are currently experiencing, leading them to think that their pain is insignificant. Remember: every feeling is valid. 

5. “It could be worse”

This one is quite the same as the previous phrase only said in a different manner. If you are trying to build a healthy relationship with someone, try to avoid empty catchphrases that don’t really add anything to the conversation. Instead, actively listen to their problems, offer your help and allow them to engage in healthy and open communication whenever they need to let things off their chest. 

4. “I never really liked him”

The real problem with this phrase is quite simple: why are you only saying this after things went bad? Why didn’t you express your concerns before? Truth is, when it’s done, it’s done, so instead of becoming judgmental and focusing on the past, make positive affirmations regarding the future. Remind your friend of their worth and tell them how they need someone who truly values them and appreciates them instead of belittling the person who made them feel bad.