Sometimes when we are too invested in the relationship that we fail to see how toxic it really is. Even worse, we choose to neglect all the signs of how unhappy we’ve become rather than taking a brave step to deal with the pain of living without the person we love.
It is okay to admit that your relationship should end, and with time and distance, you will see the relationship for what it really was; toxic and unhealthy. It is much better to end up alone than keep living with someone who constantly sucks the happiness out of you.
1You Think about their Happiness
If you are constantly trying to make them happy, while you are not getting anything in return, then you are definitely in a toxic relationship. Happiness should be mutual, and caring about the other’s happiness is what love truly means.
There is no excuse for lightning up your partner’s heart with a little joy every once in a while, especially in a serious relationship that will eventually become an institution of marriage. You don’t need to stick around for someone who does not really make you happy because, after all, life is too short to be so miserable and sad.
2Arguing without Communicating
It is normal in any relationship to fight and argue, but when the fights are “too much” and you find yourself arguing instead of communicating your feelings, then you are in a toxic relationship! Couples should communicate and express what is upsetting them through a mature conversation to avoid any unnecessary pain to both parties.
In case these fights happen way too often, it is better to step back and calculate all the reasons and times these argues happen. Couples counseling may be the better option in this case because it can be an eye-opening experience to see what is going on clearly and it may help you decide when it is best to let go.