Last Updated on December 21, 2020
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Just because you feel like your marriage isn’t working properly at the moment it doesn’t mean it can’t be a successful marriage in the future.
The truth is: married life is a difficult life. Yes, there’s love and that might be the answer sometimes but marriage needs more than that, it needs to be worked on.
Every day is a new challenge and there are a lot of daily problems that you must see through with your partner, after all, if you’re a married couple you should be able to talk to each other about anything, including tough subjects.
Let’s take a look at what the things that ruin marriage as well as the signs you might get divorced.
1. Lack of communication
The first key to a happy marriage is open communication. If you feel like there’s no communication in a relationship it’s a sign that things are not going so well and it’s time to change that!
A healthy relationship means that you and your partner not just talk but want to talk to each other, about the good and bad stuff.
Sometimes we try to hide things so we can protect the other person or ourselves. If you want a healthy relationship communication is the first step.
2. Infidelity
This might be the hardest to come back from since cheating is unforgivable for most of us. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t try to forgive or at least maintain a healthy relationship as friends, especially if you have kids with your partner.
Infidelity in relationships is the top cause couples break up but what you don’t know is how to avoid it from happening at all.
First, notice the signs. Is your partner distant from you? Are they less talkative, avoiding you at all costs? If so, something might be happening.
To avoid it, all you need is the first step named above: communication.
As long as you and your partner talk to each other you’ll be able to know how they are doing if they’re okay or doubtful and if they’re feeling some type of negative way about you or the relationship, try to fix this doubtfulness early on so it won’t lead to overthinking and possible unfaithfulness.
3. Lack of trust
This one might be connected to being unfaithful. If you’re trying to come back with your partner after they’ve been unfaithful it can lead to some trust issues and ultimately transform what you have into a toxic marriage.
Trust in a relationship is key. You should be able to trust the person you chose to spend your life with.
If by any chance you don’t have it in yourself to forgive the other person (and that’s totally normal) the best is to end this unhealthy relationship since it’s not bringing happiness to any of you, including your children if you have them.
4. No affection
You don’t need relationship experts to tell you this one. If your loved one is not responding to the love you give to them, then something is definitely going on inside their mind.
Now, it’s normal if after a fight your wife is in a bad mood and doesn’t want to show affection to you, and it will probably take a day or two until she hugs you again. It is normal to not want to show affection because of a fight, but what’s not normal is not feeling affection at all. It might be momentary but if not, it might mean your love for that person has come to an end.
5. Extreme jealousy
This is one of the top causes of conflict in marriage. Possessiveness and jealousy not only ruin relationships but also can result in very dangerous toxic behaviors such as domestic violence.
When you get married you compromise in a relationship with the other person. You have to trust each other and know that no matter how good looking his coworkers are or how bulky her personal trainer is, there’s always something stronger between you two, something that only you two have.
Of course, it’s normal and totally healthy to feel a little jealous from time to time, some people think it’s cute because it shows that you care. But it should never be something that affects you on a deep emotional level.
6. Family Drama
Yes, this one is not a joke. Some families are capable of doing everything they can to break a marriage, maybe they don’t like you, or wanted someone else for their daughter/son. The truth is, families can be super annoying, and sadly, they end up getting what they want.
We’re used to listening to our mother, taking advice from them, and always doing what they tell us to. Even if we grow up to have our own ideas, they’ll always have an impact on our decisions, especially when it comes to the person you’re spending your life with.
Most families are nice and welcoming, others not so much. If you feel like your partner’s family is the reason your relationship is not working, try to see if your partner thinks so too. Try to solve things the right way. If that can’t be done, they might have to choose between you or their family. In the end, it’s a true love test.
Keep in mind that these are signs that can potentially end a marriage unless you and your partner do something about it. You fell in love, got engaged and married for a reason. Try to remember what that reason was. Is it strong enough? If so, it’s enough to battle any relationship problems you may face in the future as a couple.