5 Myths About Marriage You Should Discard In 2020!

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Last Updated on October 26, 2020

“Why do people get married, anyway?” have you ever asked yourself that?

Well, while the reasons for getting married differ from one person to another, the basic idea is that people marry each other to share a life-long commitment with one person, give and receive love, live a stable and secure life, and have children of their own if they don’t want to have them outside of wedlock. Though, in this day and age, people are less interested in marriage and are more into singlehood or cohabitation.

Nevertheless, there are some rather “interesting,” if not outdated, myths about married life that you may have come across. They could be anything from the way you communicate with your spouse to how close you are with them.

Jump right into this list of top 5 myths about married life that you should probably discard this year, as part of your new year resolution!

Get enlightened with us!

5. Your spouse should know every little detail

Who wouldn’t want their life-partner to be their best friend? The person to whom they tell every little detail about their day-to-day life, the person in whom they confide their secrets and insecurities, etc.

While that is an ideal aspect in every relationship, marriage or not, we should acknowledge that not all people are the same and relationships are different in the same way that everyone is different.

Still, married couples tend to put themselves inside a box with the belief that they “have to be” the kind of couple that talks about everything that is going on in their daily lives, even the tiny little gossips they hear in the workplace, for example.

However, there is no rule for that and, as relationship experts suggest, the important thing is to be comfortable in your relationship. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing something or think it’s not worth sharing with your husband or wife, then don’t. As simple as that.

Don’t sweat it if your spouse isn’t necessarily your best bud or someone who would tolerate gossip, you have friends for that!

4. Avoiding conflict is the way to a happy marriage

Couples often tend to think that if something goes wrong in their relationship, it’s always to be blamed on either one of them or both. However, that is not always true.

Problems may arise in your marriage due to different factors, that may involve your separate families, jobs, or even toxic friends.

So, you can’t always avoid conflict when it’s thrown your way, you need to face it head-on through healthy communication. You should also acknowledge the fact that fights are a given in every relationship and won’t stop just because you’re married.

That’s nothing but a myth that should have actually dissolved by now, so at least remove it from your own life. No marriage is free of conflict and no exact amount of disagreement can determine whether you’ll have a successful marriage or not.

3. Wanting space is a sign of toxic marriage

This myth is quite common among us even though it’s very wrong. Just think about it, what’s more toxic, being an all-time clingy spouse (which is not ‘cute’ or attractive, by the way!) or a spouse who understands when his or her partner needs some alone-time?

Married couples should realize that they still have a life outside of their married life, including friends, family, personal hobbies, etc., and that they sometimes need time alone in order to not lose their individuality. Otherwise, the marriage will grow toxic and you will both be unhappy, being forced to go your separate ways “to find yourselves.”

Why let that happen when you can embrace your individuality while maintaining your marriage?

Remember that a relationship does not define who you are, it is your individuality, so don’t let go of it even if marriage is in the picture. Let go of myths, already!

2. Working hard in a relationship means you’re with the wrong person

Everyone strives to find “the one,” expecting that with this person, everything will be all sunshine and rainbows. Everything will go smoothly and the marriage will just magically last for years, right? Very wrong.

What you see in romance movies or the pictures and videos of celebrity couples getting along perfectly with each other, finishing each other’s sentences, and being just comfortable together, is the mere tiny tip of an iceberg. What lies beyond that perfect image is either plenty of hard-work or a ton of lies!

Whoever says that working hard to maintain your relationship means that you and your partner are wrong for each other, is wrong, so try to build your married life together and be a little more patient!

1. Never ever go to bed angry

Sometimes, it is for the best. We’ve mentioned earlier that you should never avoid your problems which also translates to the saying that you shouldn’t go to sleep when you haven’t addressed the elephant in the room, yet! Well, there is one exception, though.

Let’s say that you were arguing with your spouse, the argument turned into a fight, and then this verbal fight was starting to turn toxic as you both are about to bring up each other’s weaknesses and use them against one another. What do you do when one of you is about to emotionally hurt the other? Simply retreat from the conversation or “fight.”

Sometimes, it’s best to take time alone, recollect your thoughts again, and go back ready to address your problems rationally and apologize if you’re at fault. Sometimes, there is no other option but to leave things unaddressed for a while or “go to bed angry,” because you don’t want to hurt each other’s feelings. You only want to go back when you are ready.

What other myths would you like to share? Tell us in the comments and make sure to share this list with friends and, why not your spouse, as well!

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